More often then not I have been accused of being a narcissist.
In exact clear words of my near and dear ones “I am someone who is in love with
herself for no evident reason".
Well if you look at me by my eyes you will see there is
absolutely nothing that you wouldn’t love me for... hard to accept but it’s
true J
OK firstly coming to the meaning of the word
NARCISSIST .In everyday speech, "narcissism" often means egoism, vanity, conceit,
or simple selfishness. I am sure selfish part isn’t applicable to me
though self-love, egoism, vanity, conceit are more or less applicable.
I’ll start by sharing a very interesting incident. My
Behavioral Science teacher once asked my class “How you ever had a coffee with
yourself”. When no one in the class said ‘yes’, she asked everyone to go and try
it once to experience the joy of your own company. I joked with my friends and
we came to a unanimous decision that she has gone crazy. Who wants to go ,sit
in a café , act like a moron and have a coffee all alone (without the prospect of
any date in the picture) ?
The fact is if you
don’t love yourself enough you are on the path to stagger. You never
know you might be on the wrong track; you might be deluded by that someone who
thinks he/she can love you more than you love yourself.
I would agree to disagree with myself over here .That’s
really not the case with us.
Had we not loved our self enough we wouldn’t have come out
of that bad relation we were stuck in for so long. We wouldn’t have quit on
those friends who were not really there for us. We wouldn’t have given up that
job where our love for our own self was getting lesser. And particularly in my case
I wouldn’t have quit on that greasy food which was just getting me fatter and I
wouldn’t have got up in the morning to work out for that fab fab body.
Truth is we all are victims of narcissism. Few are better at
hiding it for their lone times and few like me don’t give a damn , who look at
mirror and smile at themselves, who irritate their cousins to keep on clicking them
till that perfect shot is achieved.
For me it’s the power to keep going. It’s the push to do
things for your self. It’s the handle to be there for your loved ones. Lastly
remember no one loves you more than yourselves. Well your parents might ... but
they are bound to, they don’t really have a choice.
Coming to that prim and proper look I already told you in my
previous Blog we aren’t promised tomorrow so if it’s my last day I don’t want
to die thinking my hair weren’t right or my kohl could have been better or I could
have worn a better top.
There is one particular lady whose words justify everything
for me.
“I don't understand how a woman can leave the house without
fixing herself up a little - if only out of politeness. And then, you never
know, maybe that's the day she has a date with destiny. And it's best to be as
pretty as possible for destiny.”
Let that narcissist in you let loose and enjoy your own company today. Go and have that cup of coffee alone in a cafe and trust me you would actually love it. It might be the best coffee you have (provided there is a cutie on the next table... LOL)
P.S. -- I don't mean you to love yourself to that point of developing a psychological condition.
Oh!! don't worry about me though... I have my near and dear ones to keep a check on myself. And I know your affection for me being a narcissist increased just a little bit more.
